Today's will be social chasms.
The other day, I was up until 3:00am talking to someone who used to be a close friend. This girl did some things to one of my best friends that I thought she was uncapable of. But she has been forgiven, and that friend has moved on even through sadness.
This girl though, desperately wants a close friendship still with my friend, even though she hurt him badly. She wants to have a friendship full of warmth and closeness. She wants something that just isn't possible at the moment.
I told her that there are certain things that can create a chasm in a relationship, and that a chasm cannot be filled by any particular activity, and that it may never be filled. After I said that, I stood stunned for a moment.
I realized something. Chasms can be filled with time. It takes a lot of work and a lot of frustration, but it really is worth it in some instances. I still think that time and hard work is the only thing that can fill them, but if they're worth filling it can be a great thing.
I'm still shoveling with one particular gal. But the strange thing is, I still want to. I'll let you know how it goes.
Tomorrow - an attempt at explaining my life philosophy